But having a crush on a co-worker and getting into a full blown relationship with a colleague are two totally different things. When it comes to dating in the workplace, it's always best to tread lightly. There are a bunch of reasons why office romances can stand the test of time, and who knows, your soulmate may very well be seated in the cubicle next to you.
But in most cases, office romances are a big no-no. Keep reading to find out 12 reasons why you should never date a co-worker.
When everyone catches on about your new office romance, they will keep tabs on all the happenings of your relationship. Colleagues will be looking out every time you and your boo lock eyes, they will stop and stare when they catch him hanging out by your desk, and if the two of you both show up late to work, they'll definitely take notice.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and after a night of passion with your bae, it's somewhat relieving to have to go your separate ways in the morning. But when you date a co-worker, you're forced to see each other every. Although you may not be in the same department, and you might not even have to interact on a daily basis, being in a relationship with a colleague means you don't really get the chance to miss each other.
This can cause the excitement of your relationship to wear off quickly. The second your fellow co-workers have an inkling that the two of you are hooking up, you'll be the main topic of office gossip. Everything about your new relationship can get twisted up, and it can really do a number to your career and reputation. Be very careful of this.
Dating a co-worker can be really distracting - especially if he has a super cute face that you can't take your eyes off of. And if your boss catches on to your lack of production, you may get a fast pass to the unemployment line.
When dating a co-worker, it's common that most of your conversations will center around work, what's happening at work, your annoyances at work, and office gossip. Over time, you may find out that you and your boo don't really have much in common outside of the workplace after all. You may become each other's sounding board inside and outside of the office, and refraining from tackling work issues at home becomes much harder when your partner is a co-worker. If you just so happen to be dating your boss or your manager, it may spark some workplace jealousy.
Your co-workers may feel that you receive special treatment, and you'll likely be ostracized because of it. Do you really want to deal with that? Do you have to eat lunch together everyday? Will he get offended if you go out with other co-workers? Will he pout when you forget to pick him up something on your way back from Chick-fil-A? No one wants to walk into the kitchen to find you two squeezed up against the microwave while your lunch goes nuclear.
Also, never use emotional language — a relationship is private. If you start an argument or row based on something that has happened outside the office, it can have a catastrophic effect on staff morale and therefore the company's bottom line. There might come a time when your relationship ends, and you may need to talk to your boss about this. This can be tricky and something which, frankly, your employer probably doesn't need. Always remember that your boss cannot side with either party if your affair is over; they'll have to maintain discretion and impartiality.
What both staff and employers need to set out from the very beginning is: Just as you trust your colleagues to drive the company forward, and use their commonsense and initiative to implement procedures and plans, you need to trust anyone you might get involved with romantically to behave themselves at work. And please, don't do anything dodgy on the photocopier. Chris Smith is chief executive at MyJobMatcher. This content is brought to you by Guardian Professional. To get more content and advice like this direct to your inbox, sign up for our weekly Careers update.
Here are a few tips for budding office lovebirds: Socialise outside work It's easy to understand why office romances start; you probably spend more time with your work colleagues than withanyone else. Don't look up or down One scenario even more potentially disastrous than dating a colleague is a relationship that crosses the command chain. Loose lips sink ships If both employees are at the same level in the company, then the romance should be kept as low-key as possible; an office can be unsettled by rumours and gossip around the water cooler.
All workers are equal There is little an employer can do about a budding relationship. Not in the kitchen, please PDAs also known as public displays of affection are a no-no in the office. Over and out There might come a time when your relationship ends, and you may need to talk to your boss about this. Order by newest oldest recommendations. Show 25 25 50 All. Threads collapsed expanded unthreaded. Loading comments… Trouble loading?